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reviews — Danielle on November 26, 2006 at 3:17 pm

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

The essence of the book is… be a good person. Simple principles that allow you to open up to the world and the people around you.

Sometimes I have a stong tendecy to feel social anxiety. I dread and avoid upcoming confrontations to my detriment, I worry too much about saying the wrong thing, and I over-analyze my social errors long after they occur. These combined behaviors can make me seem stand-offish and awkward to others when the opposite is my intention.

In a lot of ways, I am not at all as deeply awkward as I was when I was a teenager. Yet my internal imagining of myself is often “standing apart”, or contrary to my surroundings. I still internally identify as a loner when in fact externally this no longer is true – I have to talk to a lot of people all the time, and familiarity is beginning to reduce my apprehensions.

Then there is the necessity of divulging myself of my more misanthropic, pessimistic, and nihilistic leanings. In a way, I no longer believe so strongly in those ideas. I’m making a mental U-turn here as I try to thing of things positively, hopefully, and with purpose. I do believe that it is possible for a person to change.

I highly recommend this book. It is truly the original self-help book, and is a powerful, secular work that inspires improvement. You know how I feel about archetypal originals…

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    9 Comments »

    1. You ever read something and wonder, “Did I write this?”

      I think my brain is in harmony with yours this week.

      Comment by Nadia — November 26 2006 @ 6:31 pm
    2. I understand completely. I’ve always been the quiet, reserved, shy type myself. I’m starting to open up more, but it’s so hard.

      Comment by DivaShop — November 27 2006 @ 8:35 pm
    3. I’m ridiculously awkward. In fact, I started replying to your email like 3 weeks ago and I haven’t finished it yet. Sometimes I just can’t talk to people! So, hello, and expect an email sometime… before the end of the year???

      Comment by Christy B. — November 27 2006 @ 9:14 pm
    4. I’ve found that booze usually does the trick. However my social interactions shouldn’t really be a guide for anyone.

      Comment by Jesse — November 28 2006 @ 1:24 pm
    5. Hello Danielle and everyone!

      If you like Dale Carnegie, you may also like Barbra Walter’s “How to talk to practically anyone about practically anything”, and you may also like “Class: What it is and how to acquire it” by Mortimer Levitt.

      These are both part of my collection, and I find that they serve me well.

      Enjoy!

      Comment by Sarah in Oregon — November 28 2006 @ 4:58 pm
    6. Hey Danielle,

      I totally understand where you are coming from and can relate to this post so much :) I just wanted to check in and remind you that I still read your blog everyday I just don’t have the time to comment anymore. I hope you will be having a blogger brunch during Christmas Holidays then I might actually have time to come to it! Deadlines are crazy!

      Comment by Jill — November 29 2006 @ 6:38 pm
    7. It’s really nice to hear from all of you, online friends and old friends both. I’m really thankful that you take the time to comment – I really ought to reach out more often too!

      You all rock.

      Comment by Danielle — November 29 2006 @ 6:53 pm
    8. Hahaha!! You’ve only been gone from school a few months and you’re turning in your Nihilist’s Membership Card already??? This gives me hope…..
      (Don’t tell me you’re giving up on black, too?)

      Comment by irene — December 1 2006 @ 2:31 pm
    9. Never will I give up black, Irene!

      Some things are sacred =P

      Comment by Danielle — December 1 2006 @ 5:57 pm

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